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What can women do about the
“intimidation” factor? When men
learn I am highly educated and
successful, they often get intimi-
dated. It doesn’t make for a suc-
cessful dating life and it is also so
disheartening, especially because
I’ve worked so hard to achieve
by Jasbina Ahluwalia
I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling disheartened that won’t be of any help
in the dating process. I think it’s time for a mindset shift. I’d like you to
consider your educational and professional accomplishments as assets, as
opposed to liabilities, in your dating efforts. To help you get there, I’d like
to share statistics you (and other highly accomplished female readers) will
Nearly half of all single women believe their professional success is
intimidating to the men they meet. However, a 2005 article in the American
Journal of Sociology, based on a study of interpersonal relationships in 60
communities nationwide, concludes that women in positions of power are
sexier to men than women in less powerful positions.
According to research by Christine Whelan, an Oxford-educated scholar of
social history and author of Marry Smart: The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to
As many as 71% of high-achieving men said a woman’s educational or
career success makes her more desirable as a wife.
As many as 92% of men who describe themselves as either “very
successful” or “successful” say they are more attracted to women who
are successful in their careers.
As many as 89% of high-achieving men say they’d like to marry, or have
already married, a woman who is as or more intelligent than they are.
As many as 68% of single high-achieving men report that they would
like to marry a woman who is as committed to her career as they are to
Now are some guys turned off or intimidated by successful women?
Absolutely! Just don’t waste your valuable time with them. The findings
above suggest that there are many guys out there who will view your accom-
The good news is that it is a myth that men are generally turned off by
successful women. The bad news is that this myth can insidiously become a
self-fulfilling prophecy for successful women who believe it to be true.
By buying into this myth, some successful women can be their own worst
detractors in dating. So what CAN accomplished women do? Check out
next month’s column for some concrete suggestions!