Jasbina Ahluwalia
is an Indian-American attorney turned entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker / Dating
Coach. She is the Founder / President of Intersections Match, the only Elite
Personalized Matchmaking & Dating Coaching Firm in the
country serving Selective Singles of South Asian descent Nationwide in the U.S. Jasbina is also the host of Intersections Talk Radio, a
monthly holistic lifestyle show featuring conversations with published authors/experts on relationships and health and wellness. For more
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I’m ready to put some real effort
into my search for a partner, and
I’ve decided to try online dating.
I’m uncomfortable putting my
picture up online but have been
told that not doing so is a
mistake. What do you think?
by Jasbina Ahluwalia
One of my suggestions to commitment-minded men and women ready
to prioritize meeting a partner is to be as proactive as possible in the
relationship arena of their lives by aligning their actions with their goals.
In my opinion, online dating is a great avenue to meet people if you’re
willing to put the time and effort into doing so effectively.
Since a significant number of men and women will entirely disregard
online profiles posted without pictures, one limits oneself substantially
by choosing not to post a picture online.
When I’m working with our dating coaching clients on their online
profiles and communications, one of the first things I do is to ensure
that the picture (s) the client posts online is (are) a recent and accurate
representation of the best version of their authentic self. Selecting the
right pictures warrants due consideration: while you certainly want to
put your best foot forward and make a great first impression with your
online pictures, in doing so, you do not want to sabotage your first
in-person encounters by setting the bar unrealistically high.
What makes you uncomfortable about the idea of posting a picture
Some of our matchmaking clients are too high-profile in their industries
to be comfortable posting pictures of themselves online. While I can
certainly appreciate that (and that is one of the reasons for our custom-
ized services), such a situation precludes those clients from being ideal
candidates for online dating.
If there is anything about you physically which makes you less than
confident (your hairstyle, crooked and/or stained teeth, those couple
of extra pounds etc.), consider taking care of it before going online so
you can put your most confident self forward. While it is important
that the motivation to make changes to your physical self be
Assuming you are comfortable with your physical presence, what else
may be holding you back? Perhaps, just as in other aspects of dating,
you need to push the boundaries of your comfort zone.